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Thursday, March 25, 2010

Me and the Porn Star Mom

I was watching a documentary the other day and there was a porn star on who had been married to some crazy rocker. They had a baby together. Cate is only three weeks old so I'm still a little hormonal but even two years after Abby's birth, I have felt a special connection with other mothers.

The porn stars daughter died at 4 years old from cancer. I cried. Yep... I sat there and cried on behalf of the porn star mom. I felt that pull of sisterhood and cried for her. At that moment, she wasn't a porn star, she was a mother and I was a mother and we were on the same level. I wasn't better than her and she wasn't better than me. We were both sad over the loss of human life and although I have never lost a living child, I have felt loss and I felt it for her.

Should that be how the family of God is? Shouldn't we always feel the pull of humanity? Shouldn't we all be on the same level, loving one another and sharing in experiences? I hope it's always like that. I hope I can see it that way. We have all had an experience, the same experience to an extent. Can we all feel that for each other? Can we all feel the pull of being saved and the loss of human/divine life that it took to save us?

5 comments:

  1. It's always sad to lose life, but I fail to see why that being a porn star originally would be a qualifier for perhaps not feeling sorrow for their loss.

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  2. I'm not saying at all that she would not feel loss. Rather, I am putting down myself a bit by saying that I might not empathize with her as I'm a judgmental person and would have a hard time seeing her as a human like myself. I have a tendency to look down on people when they don't meet my expectations. I need to stop caring so much about all that and see everyone as and equal and everyone as a child of God. Sorry if that wasn't clear in this post.

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  3. you were quite clear (the above anon) it's just, I have a hard time understanding why someone being a porn star would make it hard to relate to them. Humans are incredibly sexual beings, and a porn star just happens to exploit that fact for money.

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  4. Being a porn star would tend to make me overlook someone completely - feelings and all. But what this post was all about was how wrong that is. I can't write off someone just because of one aspect of their life that I disagree with. I - and the rest of the family of God - need to realize how wrong it is to disregard someones feelings for ANY reason.

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  5. One thing that's common about families is that someone gets neglected, and yes I realize we're talking about the christian faith (supposed to be all of humanity) as a whole, but it's the truth. It is wrong to write someone off for something you disagree with, but at least it's better to ignore them rather than antagonize.

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